Non-Christian Spouses

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Permalink Reply by Patricia Violet Joy on March 26, 2010 at 6:29am

I went back to church to get my children into the local catholic school, which had the best reputation. When it came time for my eldest to have her first communion my husband got fed up saying to her 'don't know, ask your mother.' He started going to classes for non Catholic parents of the children. He didn't tell me until the day that he was bing Baptised at the Easter vigil mass. Since then we have grown in the spirit and continue to grow, even after all these years.

Permalink Reply by Sally Morgan on March 26, 2010 at 7:13am

when I met my husband he was I feel agnostic. He was raised in church but is very bitter about that particular church. Since we have married we have joined a church, we were baptized together, we go to Sunday school, we are in host ministries, and it all sounds wonderful right? He will not study the bible with me, he will not discuss Sunday school or the Sunday sermons with me, and prayer is the bare minimum. I don't know what to say or do. He loves the fellowship chruch provides him but I'm not sure he get's the purpose or message at all. Please pray for both of us. It is all in God's perfect timing and plan but it's really difficult for me.

Permalink Reply by Patricia Violet Joy on March 26, 2010 at 7:42am

Think yourself lucky. A friend of mine in England has a husband who keeps trying to stop her going to meetings, his excuse being 'You should be looking after me, not gallavanting about with them.' She is the same age as me, with grown up family, husband is fed and watered when she goes out once a week at night to the church, but he still keeps moaning about it.

Sally Morgan said:

when I met my husband he was I feel agnostic. He was raised in church but is very bitter about that particular church. Since we have married we have joined a church, we were baptized together, we go to Sunday school, we are in host ministries, and it all sounds wonderful right? He will not study the bible with me, he will not discuss Sunday school or the Sunday sermons with me, and prayer is the bare minimum. I don't know what to say or do. He loves the fellowship chruch provides him but I'm not sure he get's the purpose or message at all. Please pray for both of us. It is all in God's perfect timing and plan but it's really difficult for me.

Permalink Reply by Sally Morgan on March 26, 2010 at 7:32pm

I have been blessed Patricia and I am well aware of that. My husband is so good to me and loves me but I just would love to know he loves Jesus more. That I could be absolutely sure that he would be with me in heaven. Only our heavenly Father knows that though right? I just need to concentrate on me and my walk and let my heavenly Father take care of my Dan and his walk. God knows very well that I always think I can help him out. :-)

Permalink Reply by Rosemarie Vest on March 26, 2010 at 10:39pm

Hi, probably the roughest thing about having a non-Christian spouse initially was the anger he had towards the church and that so many of his college buddies acted too sophisticated and dismissed God as a myth. Don has come quite a way in his journey and can accept God's existence. He occasionally goes to church with me. A long time ago I realized I had to give him back to the Lord and seek the Lord's guidance in how best to reach him.

Permalink Reply by Patricia Violet Joy on March 27, 2010 at 4:01am

Be a good wife and a good Christian and eventually he will come to want to be like you in demenor. It can take years, but, with the Lord's help, it will happen, probably when you least expect it.

Sally Morgan said:

I have been blessed Patricia and I am well aware of that. My husband is so good to me and loves me but I just would love to know he loves Jesus more. That I could be absolutely sure that he would be with me in heaven. Only our heavenly Father knows that though right? I just need to concentrate on me and my walk and let my heavenly Father take care of my Dan and his walk. God knows very well that I always think I can help him out. :-)

Permalink Reply by Hannah Means on April 9, 2010 at 9:13pm

I married my husband 26 years ago and we both were agnostic/atheist. I was raised as a fundamentalist Christian but left the church years before I met him. About a year or so ago I gave my heart to God - something I had never really done before. My DH is grudgingly accepting of my faith but wants nothing to do with it. I found out today that he has pancreatic cancer. I told him that I would feel a lot better if he were a Christian. He just laughed. I know if I try to talk to him about God, he will turn me off and be resentful. I feel that there must be something I can do so that I'll see him in Heaven. When I mentioned once that it breaks my heart to think of not spending eternity with him, I got no real response. I try to live a Christlike life but I don't see it changing his mind. I could use your prayers!

Permalink Reply by Patricia Violet Joy on April 10, 2010 at 10:37am

When you talk to him Hannah, don't make it into a sermon, just make throw away comments to some of his remarks and leave it at that. He'll laugh or make fun of you at first, but eventually he will start listening, although at first he will pretend not to and, most importantly of all, PUSH (pray until something happens).

Hannah Means said:

I married my husband 26 years ago and we both were agnostic/atheist. I was raised as a fundamentalist Christian but left the church years before I met him. About a year or so ago I gave my heart to God - something I had never really done before. My DH is grudgingly accepting of my faith but wants nothing to do with it. I found out today that he has pancreatic cancer. I told him that I would feel a lot better if he were a Christian. He just laughed. I know if I try to talk to him about God, he will turn me off and be resentful. I feel that there must be something I can do so that I'll see him in Heaven. When I mentioned once that it breaks my heart to think of not spending eternity with him, I got no real response. I try to live a Christlike life but I don't see it changing his mind. I could use your prayers!

Permalink Reply by Rosemarie Vest on April 10, 2010 at 11:37am

Hannah,

We in your extended faith community will continue to PUSH and pray for you and with you both. God touched my husband's heart and will touch your husbands' also.

Rose

Permalink Reply by Brandy Lynn Fair on October 28, 2010 at 10:50pm

PLZ pray that my Husband Michael will come 2 know the Lord & will know salvation!! I pray for this EVERYDAY!! And my prayers 4 his Salvation will Never cease!! The hardest part is that I want Him 2 know the Lord SO Badly!!........But I can't make that happen, so now I pray that the Lord will give Me & my Children paitence while waiting on the timing that is in his Will! Pray that the Lord won't give up on Him, he will work harder on Him instead & one day He will know the Love of Christ & He will know Salvation!! Father in Heaven I Pray that the day that I speak of is on its way......He will know U...I have Faith that one day He will!! Praise the Father, the Son & the Holy Ghost....Amen

Permalink Reply by Hannah Means on October 29, 2010 at 7:01am

I feel for you. You know that you are praying for what the Lord wants to have happen. He will work in his good time. I'll pray for him as well.

Brandy Lynn Fair said:

PLZ pray that my Husband Michael will come 2 know the Lord & will know salvation!! I pray for this EVERYDAY!! And my prayers 4 his Salvation will Never cease!! The hardest part is that I want Him 2 know the Lord SO Badly!!........But I can't make that happen, so now I pray that the Lord will give Me & my Children paitence while waiting on the timing that is in his Will! Pray that the Lord won't give up on Him, he will work harder on Him instead & one day He will know the Love of Christ & He will know Salvation!! Father in Heaven I Pray that the day that I speak of is on its way......He will know U...I have Faith that one day He will!! Praise the Father, the Son & the Holy Ghost....Amen

Permalink Reply by Brandy Lynn Fair on November 29, 2010 at 12:10pm

Thank You Hannah...Sorry that took so long, it's been quite sometime scince I been on here! I keep Prayin' Hard 4 Him Everyday...for his Salvation!! Also for paitence to wait on God's Will & his timing!! God Bless