Surviving your child's early years-for mum's and dad's!

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Comment by julie helgeson on October 16, 2011 at 1:18am

we have just been to redcliffe Qld to see my brother get married.. very nice wedding. We only stayed a week but it was great to get away for a while.

Comment by julie helgeson on October 16, 2011 at 1:15am

i need prayer for myself and my baby girl (8months old) she is waking up 4 to 5 times in the night and i haven't had much sleep for the last couple of months.. we have tried feeding her solids more, panadol, letting her cry longer although when u have another child its hard to do this. She seems to want me not daddy. now shes been really sick with german measles.. i am finding it difficult to cope sometimes. would appreciate any constructive advice.

Comment by Jim H. on October 4, 2010 at 7:58pm

Wow it has been an amazing ride! I am the only male in the house, even our cat and dog is female. I not only had to learn to be a dad, i had to learn how not to put my foot in my mouth so much when dealing with girly issues, Our daughter will turn 17 this month and i dont think i messed her up to bad

Comment by Doreen Magaji on May 18, 2010 at 2:41am

Hi everyone, I am happy to join this group. I am a mother of two very active boys ,6 and 4 and have my hands full with raising them for the Lord,in between working full time. I wonder if parents here could share what they consider the top things to look out for in choosing a christian school for their kids.I found out recently that not all "christian schools" really strive to impact the kids with the Lords world view point.But have few christian activities here and there, which in my mind is not enough to qualify a school as christian.

Comment by Lisa Hindle on May 2, 2010 at 4:17pm

Hi all, it's been a while since I have caught up..family & study!!

I've just finished reading some blogs and felt stressed with you with some of the circumstances - remember all too well! Here's a few hints if that helps you great mums!

Angela: I had a routine that allowed for my time out and rest the brain time. These were my 'aahhhh' moments that I needed. When mum had a cup of tea it was 'my needs' first and it taught the kids through observation that other people in their lives have needs and they can't pile on in with theirs - unless it was important. They have grown up still with this thinking and it's lovely to watch them serve others by being mindful of their needs. That was a long digression! but didn't necessarily answer your question.

I would create a routine that would allow for variety like shopping, play time outside, art time etc and build it into an informal routine. It SO helps with difficult behaviour when the child knows what comes next in their day. Security is an enormous need, not just security with who's around but it's a comfort in knowing what they are going to do each day. Please yell out if you want more specifics.

Julie - Tantrums in my eyes are" frustrations not communicated maturely". Depending why the tantrum started depends on how we as parents respond to the behaviour at that moment. In general allow her time alone to unwind or diffuse (this also visually lets her gently know in a compassionate way that you don't find 'this' behaviour right or acceptable)

After she settles, listen to her and ask questions that might prompt her to share with you her frustrations, which is what you are doing - well done!! and help her with some 'skills' to handle the tantrum next time. Often this is best done at another part of the day when she is happy and ready to learn how to handle our sadness etc. Sometimes kids learn quickly and others - well, it's a long road of continual re-enforcement and it's hard!

Sometimes I drew a picture for my kids (eg 3 faces, frustrated, sad, selfish face) and when the child had a meltdown they went and grabbed the face off the fridge and I knew immediately how to respond. Interestly, when they knew they felt selfish, they would continue with the tantrum and not grab any face, guilt I assume! If it was other faces, I immediately gave comfort and this settled them and we then spent time working the problem through...and i let them know I was trying my best to understand their needs too.

Take encouragement with the verse: 'and it came to pass' because it does!! Bless you wonderful mums...hang in there because we do God's will when we mother. The family IS His will..other tasks are secondary to that....lisa

Comment by julie helgeson on May 2, 2010 at 1:39am

thats great..its a challenge being parents but worthwhile.. yes that is my daughter in my profile picture, she is 2 years and 4 months old.. they grow up so quickly. i love it when she gives me cuddles..

Comment by Lem on May 1, 2010 at 4:49pm

Thank you Julie...that was very nice of you to say. The girls and their mother are the most beautiful things that ever happened to me. I'm assuming that that's your daughter in your icon...she's beautiful as well. My wife and I try our very best to incorporate GOD in raising our children. Sometimes I slip but my wife is always there to remind me. So far the girls are doing great and they are showing good manners. They're pretty good at saying "please" and "thank you". Not bad for toddlers.

Take care and GOD bless.
-Lem

Comment by julie helgeson on April 30, 2010 at 10:54pm

they are beautiful little girls (lem) I agree that being a parent isn't easy especially when they get older..But there are so many benefits that outweigh the problems..involving God in our daily lives helps too.

Comment by Lem on April 29, 2010 at 4:52pm

Hello Everyone. Thank you for creating this group and making it availabe for every parents. GOD has blessed my wife and I with two beautiful twin girls...Gabriella and Isabella. It's not easy being a parent but the rewards are amazing. They are 23mos old tomorrow and growing right before my eyes. GOD is great and he has been so good to my family. Take care and GOD bless!

-Lem

Comment by julie helgeson on April 3, 2010 at 8:48pm

need help with tantrums...my little girl seems to have her moments when she gets frustrated, cranky and sits down on ground and won't move..all i can do is give her time to settle and then try to reason with her, i would appreciate any positive comments

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